Monday, April 14, 2008
April 14-20
"Never judge a book by its cover," the old saying goes. It's not always so easy to be as open-minded in judging people. The clothes someone wears, the color of their skin, their sex, their age—all of these aspects of a person are like the cover of a book. If for some reason we don't like what we see when we first meet someone, it can be hard for us to see the real material inside. Write about a time when your first opinion about someone changed.
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I always do my best to see the merits when I first meet someone.
However, I think it is very hard to see the real material inside.
One month later my roomate introduced someone. He looks like
robber or gang. His first impression made me afraid, so at that time to see his good side is very hard. Somedays later he become one of my best friend. When I came in America, I had so many bad and hard problems, But he helps me a lot of situation. His real material is very kind and nice.
With everyone, the first look is always important. However, it is difficult to understand someone clearly with the first meeting. I remember that the first day i came to the U.S., i saw my cousin, at that time he looked strict and frigid. He greeted me with a serious face without a smile. I thought that he was distant with me and it was hard to talk to him closely. That day he didn't talk to me. I felt that it would be hard to live here for long time. But someday later, he started talking to me. He asked me something and smile with me. He asked me about my study. When my laptop had something wrong, he helped me to fix it. He took me to mall and bought for me something that was necessary for my study. Otherwise, he said that if i had some problems in study, i could ask him and he was ready to help me. From that, i started thinking differently about him. He is really a good brother. Now i feel better when living here. That illustrates that you shouldn't judge someone hastily through their exterior because the real material inside is important.
I still remember that day when I first met my best friend,Anna Wang. Anna and I were in the same class in our unversity. When I first saw her, she was good looking, nice dress, and she looked a bit lordly. Usually during the first day for being a freshman student,we intorduced ourselves and made friends each other,but Anna never talk to people when we fist met. That time I guessed maybe she was a unfriendly person, she looked seem to be a spoiled girl.
Finally,I was wrong, during the study life, we knew each other more and more, she was just pretty introverted, not that one I guessed.
These days Anna and I already become best friend. I do believe she was,is,and will be my best friend forever. So I think sometimes you can't judge someone by appearance, something inside is more important than the appearance.
When I met my class mates at first, I thought there were too many Koreans and this class will be boring. I could get along with some of my class mates easily. However, some people seemed difficult to be friend. I remembered that Chris, Hydes, and Tan are seldom smiled. Tan usually talked with only Vietnamese. I thought Emma is a very silent person and Dung was looked very shy and silent. That time, I just judged them by their first impression. But now, I know they are very good class mates and they are not introverted. All of my class mates are very kind and outgoing people. Now, I think, my class is the best grouping and never boring.
People consider other people’s facial feature or appearance because humans get a lot of information by watching something. Also, I misunderstood people who study in SAL class with me or without me by only first impression. In the past, I thought they were very unkind, arrogant or boring, even I thought they didn’t concern me. However, it was my mistakes and misapprehension. They are very nice people and I can be friendly with them. Therefore, I can enjoy every life by meeting them now. In my opinion, this misunderstanding is related to my fear about meeting new people and anybody feel like me when first time to meet someone. In spite of this fact, we know whether someone is nice person or not by spending time with him or her.
Sometimes, the first impression always lets the person remember easily, and not easy to change the viewpoint. At everyone discuss for the first impression of see the other people, i want to look back to discuss the other people see me of the first meet. The words that remembered my friend to say to me; he was seeing me for the first time, i looked like a not always ready to smile person and equal serious. At the time of i don't have smile, I seem that picture is very angry person. Taht is because of for meet for the first time of person, i always bring the ego protection, but for a long time to get along with, he thought i was a very enthusiastic about helping people and very friendly. He knows that when i unload the ego protection of the stranger, i will be a friendly person. He suggests I can try to get in touch with other people more, Let the other people's first impression taken pleasure in getting along with me very much. I am not solitary person any more.
sometimes, I have a boundary to do some men. I don't know why I have a boundary to be other men. It is nature isn't it? however, I don't have a boundary to do any women. First meeting, I felt good about some men and some women but second meeting, I felt to change some other to be bad. third meeting, I felt to change someone that they give to me what bad feeling and I felt them to be kind. I think every people are kind that if we meet many time. I want to crash many people and talk about their life. Every murderers are not bad men because they just have some mistakes and some mentality problem. We have to meet other people that meet many time.
Judging people by their appearance is quiet wrong. But I tend to have a prejudice that someone’s first impression is all they have. I met my colleague, Sujin, in 2007. Unlike me, she was a very outgoing and witty person. So I thought that we would not good friends because we had very different personality. However, it was totally wrong thoughts. She wanted to be friends. She liked me who was very shy. Finally, we were good friends. I still keep in touch with her. I try to get rid of prejudice about a first impression.
When I was junior student in university, I had prejudice for my roommate. My classmate intorduced her friend to live my landlord's house, and my friend told me about somethings bad for her friend. Therefore, I had prejudice for her. When I had gotten alone with my roommate, I found she was nice. As a consequence, I think we do not have any preconception for anyone, especially other people told us something that is bad.
I have never judged someone when we first met. Because I know sometimes people are being polite but you can not tell this one is a good person. However, we can not deny a polite person will give us a good first impressions, vice versa. If we want to know someone more and deeper, it will spend some time to figure it out.
I often mistook people about character. In my case, my one of best friend, she is my junior high school student friend. She looks so cold or cynical[Some time she is really cynical when she was angry].So I was afraid of my friend. But when we were friendly, we were best friend. Because she is very kind, thoughtful and smart person. I always proud my friend.And I wanted to be alike. I still confer with her about my difficulty. She also do, too. If I kept afraid of her, I didn't get one of my good friend.
I agree with your opinion that it is really hard to " Never judge a book by its cover." I can't remember well about when my first opinion changed. Always when I meet new people, I try not to judge people by their appearances or prejudices, and even though I prejudge someone occasionally, I try to remove fast those thoughts. Because I believe every person, including me, have both good things and bad things, we have to judge person by both of them, not only first opinion. I think prejudge someone is bad habit, so I control myself not to do this.
Judging people by their appearance is sometimes a mistaken notion. It’s easy to misunderstand a person for the first meet. People not only make mistake on a bad-look person, but also on a good-look person. A good-looker isn’t always a good-heated person. One of my friends married a handsome man four years ago. At the first time when she introduced him to me, I believed that he was a good husband for her to lean on. His appearance showed that he was a charming, pleasing man. However, after marriage, his characteristic was totally different. Actually, he is a unkind man. He always shouted at my friend when they argued. He wants her to obey him. My friend cried a lot. He made me angry and so upset. My friend and I were wrong in choosing this man to be her husband. After this case, I judge a person carefully. My friend circumstance always remind me that "Never judge a book by its cover,"
If when I meet someone I really try to be not judgmental because I don't have the guns for judge someone before I know them. After I started work, then I got an ability to get to know about their personality. I look their eyes first because most of people said the eyes are “windows of their mind.” Then I could know about their personality a little bit. Sometimes, that’s not always right if we judging someone. Someone is can be good someone is can’t be good. Actually, I judged someone before I know her, and I think she is kind of stubborn, but she was really humble and friendly. Then I realized and after that I try to don’t judge somebody, and I’m still trying to don’t judge people.
First time, when I meet a person, I will not judge him/her, because I do not know him. I will talk with him. However, I think first impression is very important, such as his clothe, hair and so on. In my country, we can know he is a good boy of bad boy from his clothe.
In terms of people’s view, peoples are preferred to the first impression. It’s the best way to recognize the people who have a strong or soft face. For me, I have a wild face, so people thought me that I’m really strong and wild person. When I went to the SAL, I couldn’t talk with classmates because they thought I’m tough student, but after one month later we were close and hung at many place. At that time, I tried to talk with them and forgot to the preconception. So now we are the best classmate. It’s true that people always feel that first impression is the most important. They just decide it and judge that people’s face. We should think about the prejudice of the people’s first appearance. It is not only person’s face, but also we should more time together.
I am often interested in observing people for the first meet. I dont want to judge them through their appearence like hair, face, and clothes. I concern about their gestures,actions, or what they say. Then, I use my experiences to guess what kind they are. That is the way I can communicate with them more easy. I used to meet some people who looked very strict and serious but actually they were so friendly. Otherwise, some people looked very easygoing but they were not. So, "Never judge a book by its cover" is a reminder for us in communication. The value is shown by charateristics inside a man.
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